7 Holiday Date Night Traditions

By Tammy Greene on Thursday, December 18, 2014

Fun Holiday Date Night Traditions

This is undoubtedly my favorite time of the year.  The most amazing man on earth to me -yep, that handsome husband of mine- was born on Christmas eve.  

One of God’s greatest gifts to the world was born on Christmas day.  My husband and I eloped two days after Christmas in 2003 and then we followed it up with our first New Years Eve together.

The 52nd week is indeed the most wonderful time of the year for our family.  Most years, we’ve been fortunate enough to go on vacation in another part of the world and we usually choose a country that’s still in the midst of their summer (hello Australia!).  

This year, as was the case last year, we’ve decided to save our pennies and enjoy a home grown staycation.  The best part of staying close to home?  No packing, planes, security lines at airports and a new tradition we’ll kick off this year: a Sweetheart Christmas.

What is a Sweetheart Christmas you ask?  Scroll down to #6 on HWC contributor, Tammy Greene’s list of 7 holiday date night traditions and have yourself a happy and healthy holiday season.  

From our family to yours, wishing you the most beautiful holiday season you’ve ever seen.  

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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I love the holiday season. I would probably be hard pressed to find someone who doesn’t.

But sometimes it can be overwhelming. With all we try to cram into each day, it can be easy to lose sight of why we celebrate the holidays in the first place. 

This year, start some new traditions with your sweetie. Simple holiday traditions can help you feel connected, not only to the holiday but, most importantly, to the one you love most.

Here are some easy and fun ways to add a little tradition to your holiday season and help you and your spouse stay connected.

7 Fun Holiday Date Night Traditions

1. Bask in the Glory of Holiday Lights. Christmas lights are a holiday tradition dating back to Thomas Edison and became an official holiday tradition in 1895. Holiday lights are beautiful and fill us with a sense of awe. Take some time to enjoy the hard work of your neighbors. Hop in the car with your sweetheart and take a drive around the neighborhood to appreciate the magic a simple strand of lights can bring.

2. Drink Cocoa by the Tree. If you celebrate the holidays by decorating the tree, you know how much work this can be. But, once the work is done, do you take the time to appreciate your efforts? Warm up a cup of cocoa, top it with some mini marshmallows and cuddle by the tree. Take in the smell, reminisce, and relax. Don’t let your efforts only be enjoyed on Christmas Day.

3. Watch a Holiday Movie. Take some time to snuggle on the couch, put your feet up and share a blanket while you watch one of the many holiday classics. From the funny to the heartfelt, there is an endless array of movies to choose from. Take some time to unwind together and laugh or cry your way through your favorite holiday film.  You can never go wrong with Frank Capra’s It’s a Wonderful Life.

4. Play Hooky. One of my very favorite things to do is to play hooky from work with my husband. There is something delicious about leaving work early sometimes to spend some time with my sweetie. Take a day away from the usual grind to spend it enjoying some quality time while getting in some last minute shopping. Hold hands and stroll through the mall, pick up a holiday flavored coffee, and check everyone off your list. Fighting the crowds is way more fun if you have someone you love standing next to you.

5. Build a Gingerbread House. I know this tradition is usually reserved for the kids, but why is that? Shouldn’t the grown ups have fun too? You can make one from scratch, or take the easy route and pick up a pre-made house at the store. Design a house that represents each of you by adding icing and your favorite candies.   Display it proud for everyone to see. Each time you walk by you won’t be able to help but smile at what you created together.

6. Have a Sweetheart Christmas. Let’s face it, Christmas day can be hectic and exhausting. Opening gifts can be a whirlwind of tissue and paper and watching the clock to make sure you are on time to the next event.

One thing that my husband and I have done since we were teenagers, is have our own separate Sweetheart Christmas. On the night of the 25th, after all the hustle of the day has past and the kids are asleep, hubby and I light a fire, warm some cocoa and meet by the tree. It is only then that we exchange our gifts for each other. 

This time has become a very special tradition for us. It gives us the ability to take our time opening each others gifts. It gives us time to breathe in the peace and gratitude that the holiday season brings. It gives us time to express our love and appreciation without feeling rushed. These are precious moments for us. Celebrating Christmas together this way is the perfect way to wrap up the holidays.

7. Give Back. No matter where you live, you do not have to look far to find someone in need. The holidays are a time for giving, so what better way to give than to reach out to someone who could use a helping hand? Take some time to look beyond your own needs and stress and devote some of that attention to someone who could use some kindness. 

Whether it be donating gifts, making a meal, or donating your time, make this a holiday project you and your sweetie do together. There is tremendous joy to be found in doing something kind for others.

Whatever you decide to do, take some time to enjoy the season together. Cuddle, take in the sights and smells, listen to music, and start some new traditions. It only comes by once a year so don’t let this special time fly by without taking a few moments to relax and enjoy it together.  

Happy Holidays.



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  • Kristen Grills

    The new website looks great! (and who doesn’t love a good giveaway, right?!) Praying that all of this excitement generates excitement for marriages above all else. Way to do, Fawn (and team).

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn

      What a sweetheart you are, Kristen! Still tweaking the site…we definitely went live before everything was done (but such is life :) ). Appreciate you hanging with us today.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you so much, Kristen!! Thought I responded to this earlier…but alas I didn’t.

  • Jeanne

    Do we enter on each blog or just one time? Thanks for the wonderful giveaway! My husband and I need to get away together!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Hi Jeanne, Just one time is perfect :) . And it’s our pleasure!

  • http://joyfulmothering.net Christin

    Well, I haven’t “officially” joined until now. Now I’m a part of the club—officially! ;)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn

      Yeah!! I can’t believe you hadn’t joined until today, Christin! Well, welcome officially to the club :) .

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      I can’t believe you never joined officially, Christin! Well, welcome to the club (better late than never :) ).

  • http://www.facebook.com/AnjieYoung Anjanette Young

    I remember the beginning Fawn and I have always loved what you are doing. Happy Wives Club is a wonderful site. Anjanette @MommaYoung, celebrating year 24 this December…

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      I remember when you first began following and encouraging us. Thank you so much, Anjanette! It’s women like you that kept us going even when we got tired…

  • Lori@encourageyourspouse

    How awesome – thanks for the opportunity to link up and connect. It great to also be able to leave a comment here! ;-)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Lori! Isn’t it great to finally have comments?! That was one of the main reasons we moved from Squarespace to WordPress was because the commenting system on Squarespace is so bad (which is why we didn’t use them). Thanks for visiting, and linking up, and commenting. You rock, Lori!

  • http://momstheword--livingforhim.blogspot.com/ Nan

    My husband is a pastor. He was very shy as a child. He doesn’t have to force himself to care about people or love people, he loves them just like you do. But he, too, has to work at being more outgoing and talking with people, so he can get exhausted too. Fortunately he’s interesed in people just as you are so that helps!

    I am more outgoing than he is so I think we make a great team, lol! :)

    Thank you for the giveaway (Disney all the way,baby!!!!) and thank you for hosting toay! I am so glad I got your email because I didn’t know you’d moved it. So I went ahead and linked up Have a lovely day, my friend! :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Nan! So happy I emailed you, as well. Yes, I’m alot like your husband and I’m grateful I had a husband who said, “Hey Babe, do you know how you’re perceived when you shrink off into a corner in the middle of an event?” I never even realized (or thought about) that. But once he said it, I began working on it because it’s so important to me that people see nothing but love from all I say and do. Sounds like that’s your husband’s story, as well… Thanks for linking up, Nan.

  • http://www.facebook.com/kellywsmith Kelly Smith

    Love your heart, Fawn! And I am so thankful to have a hubby who’s a blessing too. I went through a long battle with health issues and so I can relate to what you’re saying about making some substantial changes to my diet as a result. I just want to encourage you that you’ll be amazed at how much better you feel getting soy out of your diet (as well as all those highly processed foods you mentioned) and moving toward more healthy whole foods. What a blessing that you have a great encourager right there with you as you start this journey! And there are so many real foodies out there more than willing to help you (smile)!! xoxo, Kelly

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Kelly! I am certainly encouraged. I told Keith, “Well, you’ll be married to a lean and fit woman your entire life because I can’t eat anything!” LOL! Much love.

  • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

    My sympathies on your allergies. My Keith has had them the whole time we’ve been together (non-food, recently lactose intolerant), and about a year ago he was diagnosed as highly gluten intolerant. It’s been a big change in the house, but he’s been a good sport about it, especially since he has felt so much better since going gluten free.

    My Keith has made me laugh innumerable times in our marriage. Although I can’t recount a particular one off the top of my head, he has saved my sanity often with his caring and quick wit.

    Halleluja for hubbies!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Kim, your hubby’s name is Keith too?! I now know three bloggers who adore their Keith’s: you, Sheila Wray Gregoire (Love, Honor & Vacuum) and Courtney Joseph (Women Living Well). What are the chances? On a side note, I was praying I didn’t have a gluten allergy. That would have made it SOOOO tricky.

      • http://www.toodarnhappy.com/ Kim Hall

        Ha ha! We shall be the mini Happy Wives of Keith Club! :-)

  • Andrea W

    Happy Friday! I l like old school….Anne Meara & Ben Stiller…married since 1954!! I love them!! Of course, Denzel & Pauletta Washington.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Since 1954? How old is Ben Stiller?!? Are you sure?

  • http://twitter.com/ColleenLeslieT Colleen Thompson

    Hey Fawn and Mai,

    First, I want to thank you for leaving me a message that this link up had moved. I have missed a couple of weeks and wouldn’t have found you back so fast if not for your effort to let me know.

    Secondly, I’m wondering if there is a way that I can fix the pic that I used for my link today for the Monday Morning Bragging Wife. If not, I won’t die. But it’s a little low-res, no? ;)

    Thanks again for the great work you do at Happy Wives Club.


    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yeah! So happy. Send me the pic you want to use to fawn(at)happywivesclub(dot)com and I’ll get it changed out for you :) .

  • http://twitter.com/ColleenLeslieT Colleen Thompson

    Great words of wisdom about taking ‘me time’, Fawn. I assure you that I wholeheartedly agree! When I am consistent about taking time to for myself, I notice a VAST difference in how my days go.

    With our family schedule, I find the only me time I can carve out is before everyone gets up. 6 a.m. is the magic hour. And, despite often being out late for work – like 1 a.m. – I’m seeing that my days still go better when I get up early to pray, ponder, read my Bible and read whatever leadership, relationship or people skills book is on the lesson plan at the moment.

    Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you, Colleen! Today was the first day I slooooowed down and set aside some “me” time and it’s made a world of difference. I decided today I wouldn’t talk about how busy I am or how there isn’t enough time in the day and would simply focus on maximizing the time I’ve got and I can’t even begin to tell you how all of a sudden I have enough time in the day to do what needs to be done. Our words are so powerful (and so is “me” time :) ).

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Colleen, have you already read the book?! You are naming the chapters — ponder and pray!

  • Lori @ Encourage Your Spouse

    What’s the latest lesson I’ve been learning about prioritizing life? That I MUST make time to nurture friendships. The days can just slip by, and the “let’s get coffee together someday” never happens, unless it’s on the calendar. Having positive friendships also enriches my relationship with my hubby because everything I learn and experience I can bring back to our marriage so he can benefit also.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Sounds like you and I are learning the same lesson. Isn’t it amazing how “let’s get coffee someday” turns into 3 months later. So sad. As you learn how to carve out the time, please share your success with me :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      In the book I have many confessions of mistakes and one of them was not doing this very thing! Last night I had many friends over to honor the way they have impacted my parenting with wisdom and supported me during the writing of the book–friends are a treasure.

  • Andrea W.

    Happy Wednesday! I’m happy I learned this lesson years ago! Open to learning more.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks for stopping by, Andrea! So happy you learned this lesson years ago too. Years ahead of me :) .

  • Cam | Bibs & Baubles

    This post was so on time. My mother just told me this week that if I’m too busy to do what I need to do, I’m busier than God ever intended for me to be. It struck a cord because between our children and our careers, my husband and I can be like two ships passing in the night some days. I’m a believer in the power of words too. This whole “busy” thing can, scratch that WILL be fixed. Power in words, indeed.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Sounds like you are in the same place I was at on Monday. The good news is just that simply mindset change and the words to follow it can change everything – in an instant! So tell your Mom, you’ve fixed it :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      I am smiling with your choice of words “two ships that pass in the night” Our pre-marital counselor used those very words to describe us years ago! It was a big warning to us that we were both busy types and need to focus on each other.

  • GreatPeaceAcademy

    I can’t say that I’ve thought of it in those terms. My spouse of 20 years and I try to connect daily, touch base if you will. We try to weekly have a discussion about what’s going on, we mostly talk in the car while travelling here and there. We do however, carve out once a month date time. Without Fail. It’s important to focus on just us.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      That consistency -even once a month- makes a world of difference, doesn’t it?

  • http://twitter.com/ButterflySmilez Terra Newsome

    As a busy mother of 5 (ages 17,15,14.13 and 11) and wife of 18.5yrs, it takes EFFORT to keep our marriage flowing. In the busier years as a SAHM and a wife of an Army solider, my time was consumed by the kids yet as Christ Jesus being our foundation, we made what time we had possible and kept our priorities focused while prayerful throughout our journey as a couple and parents. Now that the kids are older, we talk often throughout the day and schedule lunch and/or weekend dates. I really look forward to these times…. even if it’s just mini phone calls from him while he’s at work just to say “Hello” or a text saying “I love you”. My husband still gives me butterflies!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Oh, the mini phone calls and texts are the best, aren’t they? Thanks for stopping by and taking the time to post a comment, Terra!

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Your love for your husband is precious! And small points of communication are a gift of technology today–it is so easy just to text and call anytime, anywhere. We have a family group text and pictures and words pop up all day for the all of us to see–fun!

  • Andrea W.

    Happy Wednesday! Yes I have heard this myth, but REFUSE to buy n2 it! Hubbie won’t allow it! Thank goodness 4 that! Small love gestures become BIG rewards! As Florida Evans usta say about James……HAVE MERCY! =)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Good for hubby! Yes, those small gestures reap HUGE rewards!

  • Whitney

    I’ve only been married a couple years…and we have a toddler so it really makes it difficult to focus on each other or even have an adult conversation. But we have become really involved with our church and we attend a young married couples Sunday School class where EVERYONE has the same problems that we do. It has truly been a blessing to find a church family! It really does make a difference when something is on your mind, or you have an argument and every couple in the room agrees or laughs because they feel the same way! I guess what I’m getting at is that the small, petty problems that you are having in your marriage are the same ones everyone else has so don’t sweat the small stuff!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yes, yes, yes! Don’t sweat the small stuff…and it’s all small stuff :) .

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      It is hard because small stuff can become habits but yes, you have to let it go and focus on what is important. And so wise of you to find a Sunday School group that you can be transparent with as a compass for what is “normal” in marriage. I am sure it really helps maintain realistic expectations!

  • http://twitter.com/TheMommyMess Adrienne Bolton

    Great ideas!!! I’m pinning! I found your blog from Kim at Too Darn Happy. ;)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Love, Kim!! Thank you so much, Adrienne!

  • Shannah at Just Us Four

    The new site looks awesome and I love the ability to comment!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yeah! And I really love the ability to comment back to you :) .

  • http://momstheword--livingforhim.blogspot.com/ Nan

    Great post! Unfortunately it’s easy for hubby to get lost in the kid shuffle and the relationship put on the back burner until the kids are grown if we aren’t careful to nourish and guard it. And if we don’t guard it, what relationship wll we have left?

    Thanks for hosting today! :)

    • http://momstheword--livingforhim.blogspot.com/ Nan

      O.k so I feel the need to tell you that I DO know how to spell “will.” Lol! ;)

      • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

        LOL! Too Funny :) .

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Not much of a relationship at all, Nan. You are so right!

    • http://SusanMe.com Susan Merrill

      Nan, I have done this exact thing thousands of times — Mark is much better at maintaining the focus on our marriage.

  • Lucille Williams

    Fawn, I love this! Amen & Amen! The best line for me was “fat bank account and a skinny relationship.” That said it all! Great post!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Lucille! Did you already link up? I look forward to reading your post :) .

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    I agree 100%, Fawn! I think this is a perfect way to say it and demonstrate it. In fact, I’m going to take your lead and “lean in on my husband” now! Thanks for the encouragement.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Love this! Thanks for stopping my, Beth, and taking the time to comment.

  • Ferly Tangonan

    This is a great post and I totally agree with you. This morning I gave up probably an hour of sleep to make my husband a sandwich to take with him to work. I did this not because he asked me to {he didn’t}, but I wanted to show adoration to my husband for getting up early everyday and taking the full responsibility of providing for our family. I could tell he appreciated me being up with him. It was worth losing an hour of sleep today.

    ~ Ferly
    Gifts We Use {to grow, love and serve}

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Sounds like the best thing you could have possibly done with that hour. Good on you! <3

  • Donna

    I love the post on the benefits of making love a priority. I understand with jobs & small kids it’s hard to juggle the time & exhaustion element. I find by talking to friends, most women have NO DESIRE ! I find that sad since God gave us the GIFT of sex ! It was his idea & I find it the best gift ever ! Yes, my sons are now grown & I am now married 14 years to the MAN of my dreams in every category ! So intimacy is extremely important to us & we know what we don’t want in our relationship based on past mistakes with our exes. We never look at sex as a chore EVER ! We view it as a pleasure & time to bond & connect. My husband has worked overseas the past 5 years & we are only together twice a year for 30 days. THAT will definitely give you a new perspective. Our bucket list once he is home for good is 1 YEAR ( 365 days) of love making.
    And we know with our strong love & commitment it’s 100% possible ! For women who have lost their libido, they need to get it back for the sake of their marriage & partner ! God says we are to submit to our husbands. What greater gift to give them, then our love & intimacy in the bedroom.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Donna, for your response! As Sheila mentioned here, enjoying the process of making love is so beneficial for both husband and wife and exploring with your partner what feels best and when can be tricky (if only we could all take classes on this :) ). Over the years, our bodies change so much and keeping up with that can be tough. But those who make it a priority can enjoy it for as long as our bodies will allow it (woohoo to that!!).

  • http://www.joleneengle.org/ Jolene @ The Alabaster Jar

    I’m my man’s biggest cheerleader and I’m glad for that high position of honor! We’re one flesh and we’re constantly encouraging one another. Thanks for sharing, Trisha!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      I hear you, Jolene! I’m the exact same way. Thank you so much for taking the time to share your thoughts. Appreciate you!

  • Nan

    For some reason it won’t let me leave a comment on your individual post but it WILL let me leave one here!
    Awesome post. Over the years I have (hopefully) learned how to allow my husband to talk without shutting him down with my initial “That’s impossible” or “You can’t be serious” reaction, lol!
    I remember before he became a pastor he came to me stating that he wanted to go into the ministry. He was terrified of my reaction because when we were dating I stated that I never wanted to be a pastor’s wife. Never. Did I mention never? ;)
    God speaks through our husbands and definitely though mine because sometimes I am so caught up in details and deadlines and cleaning house, etc., that I forget to have fun and I forget to dream a little!
    Thanks so much for your post, Tricia, and for hosting today, Fawn!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Nan! I tried to reply to this last night but our Disqus system went a little whacko for a few hours. My programmer is working on figuring out this issue. Thanks for alerting me!

  • Tyson Cooper

    This is great advice Tricia, thank you for sharing. I agree entirely. As my wife supports me in achieving my dreams my desire to support and encourage her in her dreams increases dramatically. And you’re right, if she questions or doubts an idea that I have immediately I begin to focus on what is wrong with it and how it will probably fail. Thankfully, I have a fantastic wife who is probably far more supportive than she should be. :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Sounds like you have an awesome wife, Tyson…and you’re incredibly grateful. That’s a good thing for sure!

  • Tonya@ The Dieter’s Academy

    This the best marriage advice I have heard in a long time! I think more marriages would be successful if spouses focused on positive uplifting attitudes and actions, as opposed to zooming in on the little things that aren’t going as planned. I love the idea of dreaming and supporting our spouses in their dreams. Like Tricia said – when we do, everybody wins!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Absolutely! Everybody wins.

  • Ferly Tangonan

    I love your perspective on this! I have learned that every interruption is divine, so seeing them from that point of view helps to find the immediate beauty in an otherwise inconvenient situation. Great post!

    ~ Ferly
    Gifts We Use {to grow, love and serve}

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      So true, Ferly! It’s all divine.

  • LeAnn Williams

    I loved this one. You have a great perspective. You also have a loyal dedicated husband who is like mine; he will go to work until he feels like dieing. I love thought the thoughts on serving others and your husband should be the on the top of that list.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      You are absolutely right! Hubby should be at the top of the list. <3

  • Shannah at Just Us Four

    I think this is so important to remember. It is way to easy to focus on the inconvenience or downside to an unexpected change. Great points on how important it is to keep perspective.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Shannah! And thank you for taking the time to comment :) .

  • jn107691

    I just found your site. Thank you for all the input you provide. I have been trying to be a good wife to my husband. He also is self sufficient. I like the suggestions here. We usually only hear and see the negative. I have tried to be a positive impact with my husband but it difficult at times. It is so nice to see positive thinking about being married, especially after 25 years.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you so much for your comment! You are so right that we almost see, hear and breathe negativity when it comes to marriage. But you and I (and the women of this club) can change that :) .

  • Tyson Cooper

    Fawn you are so right. Happiness is a choice and thankfully it is not governed by genetics. My grandparents divorced but my parents are happily married and will be celebrating their 30th anniversary this June. However, my sister and her husband really struggle. I believe it is important to include God in our marriages and have found that as my wife and I do it is easier to be happy. We are grateful each day for a strong marriage and we focus on ensuring it stays strong.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yes! And you hit the nail on the head. Even with God as the center (as He is in our marriage, as well), happiness is impossible without genuine gratitude.

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    You were right, Fawn. For some reason, using the Google Chrome browser allows me to see and comment directly on your post. I’ll have to remember that next time. :)

    And I love this idea. I use my notepad app for a lot of things and this is a great list to create and continue to add to. I love having the ease of my phone (which is almost always with me) to record important things that I need to remember. And I’m certain that remembering all throughout my day just how my husband has blessed me will improve my attitude and gratitude toward him. Thanks so much!

    • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

      Welp, i take that back. It appears to have moved me to your comment policy page. Oh well. I hope it encourages you anyway!

      • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

        You’re not on the Comments Policy page, Beth. You’re on the home page :) . The comments policy is always written along the top. My programmer is now trying all the different browsers to see which are having the problem and we’re crossing our fingers that Disqus already knows and is working on it.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Beth! It was amazing how many things I began to see when I took the time to look for them. I hope this exercise will really touch you and your marriage. <3

  • paula

    I have been learning this lesson lately as well. Contentment does not mean that you don’t want anything else! it just means you are choosing to be happy where you are. There is a lot that I want (and that would make my life SO much easier) but I’m learning to be truly happy. :)

    Thanks for sharing this great reminder that is applicable to all parts of life! :)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn Weaver

      Ditto, Paula! I know exactly what you mean :) .

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Paula. You are so right. It’s definitely applicable to all parts of life.

  • Debi – The Romantic Vineyard

    Fawn, I love this!!! Congratulations on your first decade of marriage. And what a great memory you made. You made a beautiful bride!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you, Debi! I truly appreciate it.

  • Elizabeth Ours

    Wow! So sweet! You are So BEAUTIFUL! What a gorgeous wedding dress! Thanks for letting us have a peek into your special day together!! And Happy Anniversary!!!! ;)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you, Elizabeth!

  • http://www.facebook.com/bridget.cook.98 Bridget Cook

    I loved the surprise vow renewal for guests! All I could do was smile as I was reading and thinking about your guest’s reactions. You two look great together-beautiful and oh so sneaky :P

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      I wish I could have seen the guest’s reaction too! I hear it was pretty fantastic :) .

  • Andrea W.

    WOW!! BREATHTAKING!!! HAPPY 10 YEARS 2GETHER and many, many, upon many more years 2gether!! praise JESUS!!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Andrea!

  • Cindy – Marriage Missions

    What a beautiful testimony of love! We’re so blessed to be able to celebrate with you on a decade of love and promises well-kept! May God continue to shine His blessing upon your marriage as you join with Him in being His colleagues in displaying and giving love to each other. We celebrate with you! May your love and commitment cause others to see the Love of Christ in action so many will want to know our God better.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Oh, thank you Cindy!

  • paula

    congrats on your renewal!!! :) looks like a beautiful day <3

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you so much, Paula!

  • GreatPeaceAcademy

    Congratulations! What an awesome way to spend your anniversary! I love that you surprised your guests because it made it more about the two of you sharing your love than about their expectations for the day. :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      You can say that again! My hubby and I were just talking about that. Others expectations will completely rob you of your happiness if you don’t guard yourself from that. And this is the very reason we decided to do it this way (and SO happy we did :) ).

  • http://twitter.com/RhiannonSTR Rhiannon Strobel

    Absolutely happiness and love are a choice that can be made every single day! I love your empowering, positive and loving posts! Thank you again :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Rhiannon! Comments like yours encourage us so much.

  • Andrea W

    Happy Friday! Printing the list right now! This is exciting! Have a fun & safe Memorial Day weekend!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Same to you, Andrea!

  • Lori

    Thanks so much for sharing A Year of Questions with your gals. Blessings, Lori <

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank YOU! This is so wonderful.

  • ArlenePellicane

    Thank you so much Lori & Fawn! Printing the questions now – perfect for the summertime at meals! :)

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yeah! So happy you like it :) .

  • Hannah B

    THANK YOU! I’ve been wanting to make something like this!!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yeah!! So happy you’re going to benefit from this, Hannah.

  • http://twitter.com/RhiannonSTR Rhiannon Strobel

    I LOVE this: “Never argue over things that will not matter in the last five minutes of your life”

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Isn’t that a great reminder, Rhiannon!

  • Lauren Lawson

    This seriously made me tear up when i read it yesterday. I’m so sorry for your families loss. I LOVE that your mom has that peace to carry with her… words have power.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Lauren, you are such a sweetheart. So honored you take the time to read HWC and I love it every time you link up so I can enjoy Aunt La La!

  • SistersRaiseSisters

    This is our first time to join the link up! Excited to be here and share our post about Love Languages. Found you through Moms the Word. – Penny Lane @ SistersRaisingSisters.com

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Awesome. Looking forward to reading your post!

  • Still DatingMySpouse

    I don’t know how I been missing Marriage Monday…..Thanks for allowing me to link up my blog post! Look forward to visiting the blogs!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Yeah! So happy you found us again for Marriage Mondays :) .

  • Angie @ The Dating Divas

    Happy Monday! Have a great week and thank you for hosting! ~ Angie @ The Dating Divas

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Thanks for always joining us, Angie! We find so many fabulous tips over at TheDatingDivas.com!

  • Kimberly Green

    We take advantage of any Lunch date opportunities while kids are at school. No babysitter- cheaper menu.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Oh, that’s a great idea, Kimberly! That is definitely one to add to this list.

  • Lisa

    Just found this blog! Looks great! I love the Date Nights Cheap. We all need date nights, and we’re all strapped, so this post is excellent!

    By the way, I accidentally wrote the title of my blog as my name, instead of 8 Ways to be Your Husband’s Best Friend! Oops…

    Thanks again for hosting!


    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      So nice to meet you, Lisa! Happy you found us :) . No worries on your link up title. We can get that changed for you :) .

  • Andrea W

    Happy June & Happy Monday!!! At my church,, I have signed my hubbie & I up 4 an all day tourist excursion! It is to a famous tourist spot. I am excited because 4 the low cost of $50, we can spend the entire day together, ride the bus as someone else does the driving, & enjoy each others company! The $50 cost would be gas alone if we were driving to the same spot. Snacks R included N the cost of the all day excursion!!! I can’t wait for my date-DAY with hubbie!!! N-joy HIS day!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      That sounds like a pretty amazing deal! Is this something your church put together or something through a tour company that is partnering with your church?

      • Andrea W.

        The church put the trip together. We will arrive to the church to catch the bus at 6:45 a.m. & return to the church @ 6:30 p.m. Of course, I will take X-tra food so hubbie & I can have an outdoor picnic & just enjoy the grounds as much as we can. I may take my 365 questions from your previous posting & discuss some of the questions thruout the day! We actually discussed 3 of the questions last nite. Pretty good discussion! Keep up the tremendous work, Fawn!!!

  • http://www.onepartjoyonepartcircus.com/ AJ Collins

    Great post! We are also strapped financially, so this is perfect timing! We like to eat at an inexpensive restaurant and wander through a book-store together.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn Weaver

      Oh, the book store thing is a great idea because it can spark great dreams together.

  • Pam@mommacan.com

    Love this post! I just texted my husband…. : )

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Woohoo! He’s going to LOVE that!

  • Fina

    LOL you have just converted me to an “over girl” LOL Have a great day!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Woohoo! Now, we’re talkin! :) Make it a beautiful weekend, Fina.

  • Lisa

    This is so good! Do great minds think alike, or what? My post this week is on exercise and eating right, and how it makes the marriage sizzle!

    I can relate to your words that “some of the noises my body makes while we are having sex are definitely NOT the erotic kind!” Funny, but not funny!

    Keep up the great posts!


    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Isn’t that the truth, Lisa! “Funny, but not funny!” :)

  • Tom and Debi Walter

    Fawn, We’ve had a similar group for the past 8 years. We’ve called it the Passport Dinner Club. I made a passport for each couple and we would stamp the page when we visited different countries. We did it so long that we ended up adding regions of the USA to our list of choices. The club has since ended, but we’re looking to start up again with another group of friends. I’m still so amazed you were able to travel the world last year. What an amazing opportunity!

    • Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      That seems like SO much fun!

  • Lisa Raub

    For me, I guess reading great blogs and good books has been the salvation of my marriage! God has been so good!

    My Beloved and I go out every other week (which is not often enough for either of us, but it’s what we can do right now) and I know that helps a lot too!


  • Lynn

    Thank you for hosting this blog hop! I look forward to reading the articles.

    Lynn (Living Free in Christ)

  • Lena Middleton

    These five points are very valuable and significant. I
    personally feel that it does not only improve the relationship but will create
    a good environment for the next generation.


  • Fougies

    Best anniversary gift I ga e my husband was a voucher to get our first professional photo done he’s been wanting and waiting took awhile to pay it off but finally got it done and he cherishes it.

  • Cindy H.

    Hello Fawn, A group of women from a few of our local churhes are doing “The Husband Project” 21 days of loving Your Man on Purpose and with a Plan by Kathi Lipp. I found your site online by googling ideas on loving your husband. I shared your site with the rest of the ladies yesterday when I found it so they can get the certificate for their hubby too. I look forward to reading more on here!

  • TrulyWed Wives

    We’re excited, getting our Philly Wives ready!

  • Kirstin Fuller

    Fabulous ideas… Love them all! Thanks Christine!

  • http://www.aterriblehusband.com/about/ ATerribleHusband

    Awesome post! I usually text or send a silly selfie to my wife of me smiling or giving a thumbs up message. But I need to get “religious committed” to it. It’s been a few times per week. Love the ideas in the comments too!

  • JWilliamson

    I have just join the group I am really excited to add more to my marriage. Hope to hear from you ladies.

  • spope

    What a great ‘club’ to be a part of! I often hear people say couples that don’t fight don’t make it – I think that’s a load of balony personally. My husband and I have had exactly two fights in our relationship of over 18 years, and both times a little too much alcohol impared our judgement. We’ve not fought in our entire marriage of 13 years. Glad to hear there are other believers out there!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com Fawn Weaver

      So happy you found us here! Thank you.

    • LL

      Thats amazing! How do you do it? I feel like My husband and I bicker every day about something. What is your secret?

      • spope

        Watching my mothers five unhappy and unsuccessful marriages has taught me what NOT to do; everything is worth a fight to her. So, everytime I get annoyed and feel like sniping at him I ask myself ‘Is this worth getting divorced over?’ the answer is always no. Of course, it helps that we don’t have some of the normal marital stressors (we’ve chosen to be childfree, and have no financial issues) :)

        • C&R

          My fiance and I have been living together for two years now. We have not fought yet. A couple of disagreements, but that’s about it, nothing major. I think it’s a good thing. I do think about when we do have a big fight, on how we’re going to deal with it. Just saying ….

  • NikkiOpdycke


  • NikkiOpdycke

    We have a daily ritual of “coffee time” every morning. We sit together and chat and enjoy each other’s company. It really keeps us connected.

  • Julz Yang

    You’re absolutely right. I don’t even know why I browse FB so much when there’s really nothing of interest going on. Such a terrible-terrible habbit that needs to be broken. Ugh. It’s not even so much that I need to spend more time with *him* because he’s at the office late into the night anyway, but I could really use that time to do more productive things. Maybe I need to go on a 21-day FB fast? :D

  • CS & RG

    Love this site. Not married yet, but engaged to be married. Thanks for all the helpful tips.

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