11 Ways to Drive Your Husband Wild!

By Fawn Weaver on Friday, August 16, 2013

11 Ways to Drive Your Husband Wild!

I bet when you saw that title you instantly thought this post was about sex.  Nope!  Well, maybe a little bit.  But not very much.

I may be of the minority in saying this but I am one that doesn’t buy into the thought that a man is controlled by his…ahem…endowment.  

Driving your man wild isn’t something that should be contained to the bedroom…or sex for that matter.  

Now, don’t get me wrong, I know men love it.  But let’s give them credit for being about more than just sex.  

Just as you want to be treated like a queen, his heart’s desire is to be treated like a king.  So let’s have fun with it!

Although there are so many things you can add to this list, here are 11 ways to drive your husband wild

1. Make Him Hot and Bothered.  I said this entire list wasn’t about sex, but I’m not crazy enough not to include at least one thing you can do to increase your hubby’s sex drive (and your own). 

2. Fifteen Seconds a Day Keeps the Blues Away.  They say an apple a day keeps the doctor away.  Well, fifteen seconds a day of this will keep the blues in your marriage far far away.  And increase that to forty-five seconds to set off some fireworks!

3. Turn Your Home Into a Post-It Heaven.  I’ll never forget seeing my mother write sweet notes to my father in red lipstick on mirrors all over their bathroom.  Now, that can be a messy proposition and was contained to one area.  Expand a little.  Make it cute.  Make it mushy.  Make it flirty.

4. Sharpen Up Your Flirting Skills.  There are SO many ways to flirt with your husband (think, sexy texts, playing footsie) and there is nothing like a man on a hunt.  Don’t fight it; they were bred that way.  Men love the chase!  Let him know you want him, desire him, but he’ll have to catch you. *wink* 

5. Call Your In-Laws Just to Say Hello.  When was the last time you called your in-laws, and not at the prompting of your husband?  Remember, these are the people who helped make your husband to be the wonderful man he is today.  Reaching out to the ones who brought him into the world (or at least raised him) will do more for him than you can imagine (this, of course, is assuming he has a good relationship with them and they’re not absolutely crazy :) ).

6. Do Something Brag Worthy.  Have you ever sat around listening to men talk about their wives?  I have some experience with this, and let me tell you, it’s actually quite cool!  Men love bragging about their wives so give them a reason!  Begin a Husband Gratitude List and put it in his pants pocket so he’ll find it when he least expects.  Wear a tee shirt in public that says, “I Love My Husband.”  Whatever it is, make him blush!

7. Kid Swap + Stay-At Home Date = Happy Husband!  Surprise him with an at-home date night.  If you don’t have children, this is super easy.  Turn the house into a fancy restaurant or spa and treat him to an awesome date at home.  If you’ve got kiddos, make arrangements for the kids to be away while the two of you have some one-on-one time.  When was the last time you did that?  

8. The Fun Dare.  This one takes some planning but it can be done!  Choose between 12 dates over 12 consecutive nights or spread it out over 12 weeks.  Either way, you and your husband will have a blast (and you can do this on a very tight budget).  For parents, this is definitely the time to use the kid swap.

9. Turn Yourself Into a Piece of Eye Candy.  Listen, I’m the first one to say lingerie is not my thing.  I find most of it too tight, too short, too itchy, and too everything else.  BUT, there is a time and a place for everything and that includes lingerie.  It took many years (ahem…8 to be exact) but I finally found some lingerie that serve as both eye candy to him and feel comfortable to me.

10. Get On Board the 10-Minute Express.  If you looked at no. 9 and thought, “There’s no way I’m putting all this into something little like that,” then this one is for you!  Most of us have a little extra jelly we’d like to not have jiggling so much (hand up in the air), but if that’s keeping you from showing off your body to your husband, try this!  

In just ten minutes a day, you can start toning those areas that need a little work.  US Olympian, Annett Davis, created this express workout exclusively for the women of HWC so we should all feel quite special!

11. Look Into His Eyes…and Smile.  This was so simple I had to leave it for last.  Have you ever looked at your husband in the eyes and just allowed the love in your heart to rise to the top and curl the sides of your lips?  Watch his smile expand as he looks into your eyes trying to figure out what you’re smiling about.  And even if he doesn’t ask…he’ll know.

QUESTION: This list could be SO much longer!  What are we missing here?  (Add to the list by posting in the comments section.)

Until Monday…make it a great weekend!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.

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  • Leslie Swan

    Great ideas, as always!

  • Leslie Swan

    Great ideas, as always!

  • Leslie Swan

    Great ideas, as always!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Thanks, Leslie :) .

  • KaseyJSmith

    Thanks for the tips! :)

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      My pleasure! Make it a great weekend :) .

  • Stacy

    Love the idea.. ^_^

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club


  • alsohappy

    Like the picture shows – my hubby likes me to wear a skirt sometimes. “Easy access” he says. ahem…

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Ahem is right! Love that.

  • Regina Sponseller

    We take showers together, and we go to bed at least 15-20 early just to lay, cuddle & talk then go to sleep.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      I love this idea, Regina. Thinking we’ll try this one tonight :) .

      • Regina Sponseller

        So I hope you surprised him with a shower. I don’t know how long you have been married but we have been married for 9 1/2 yrs just found out he has Advance Stage 4 Cancer Please CHERISH EACH OTHER AS MUCH AS POSSIBLE, NO REGRETS

    • Laura Sortwell

      We took a shower together on our wedding night, and do it every so often now, even though it’s been 5 years. It takes a bit of planning now because we have 4 small kids and I am pregnant…but it’s so fun and such a special way to be intimate with each other. =)

  • megdoll

    One day after coming home together, tell him to wait a few minutes in the car and then come find you. Make sure you leave a trail ;) They do love a hunt.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Woohoo!! Love this!

  • sunnymolls

    You simply MUST tell us about that lingerie you found!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      I discovered it wasn’t the lace, sheer, straps or any of that my hubby loved, just something short and easily “accessible” did the trick. So short baby doll dresses, in soft cotton, do the trick. One outfit is super soft cotton with spaghetti straps, gathers with elastic at the center and has really short shorts :) . I found them in Victoria’s Secret because they have such a large array of choices. What I did is have a conversation with my husband about how traditional lingerie didn’t make me feel confident and asked if we could find a few pieces he found sexually appealing and I found comfortable to wear. He loved helping me find my pieces and they always turn him on. The best compromise ever! :) Happy searching!

  • Ri

    Be your hubbie’s best friend. One of the things that has kept me and my partner going is that we indulge in, and try our best to enjoy, activities that the other loves but we might not necessarily do. On occassion I’ll watch Kung Fu movies, play outdoor sport/game, have junk food and video game day. He gets to be all of him insteaf of just being “the husband” at home. It has kept us bonded together and aware of the persons interests. Even if it isn’t my favorite thing to do it builds good memories and so, keeps us strong.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      That is a great one to add!

  • Sarah

    One thing that we find helps us stay close is taking a sincere interest in each other. Even if I just take a few minutes to talk to him about his day and take his side when he talks about feeling taken for granted at work or obnoxious coworkers, just that moment of remembering we’re in this together every day as often as possible helps so much.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      So true, Sarah!

  • Amanda

    I’ve started making a list this year of all the things he’s done and just little qurkie things I love about him each week. Ex Those baby blue eyes, helps our little boy learn how to be a man, the way he kisses me goodnight how he prays with our kids… I plan on giving this loooongg list to him on our anniversary each year. Makes me fall in love with him over and over again because I’m watching for the good and not distracted by the annoying little things our husbands sometimes do. Lol

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      LOVE this, Amanda!! Great idea.

  • http://www.tidbitsofexperience.com/ crystal

    This is a great list of suggestions to make your man happier. I can’t remember who wrote a list of ways to make your man happy, but one of them was make sure you ask your husband how he wants you to look when you get home (and take the time to look that way when he gets there.) I found out that it truly does matter to my husband a lot.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      It’s funny because this doesn’t matter quite as much to my hubby (if I don’t have meetings, the way I look when he leaves in the morning is often the same way I look when he returns). But when I do take the time to spruce up, he’s like a kid in a candy store. So I agree with you and definitely do it as often as possible.

  • Mariajudith Bautista Teodoro

    my husband is not in my side ,he is working abroad,maybe i can practice that when he come home for vacation,but for this relation far from each other i always make txt him inspiring note,in love note,can you make or talk about a long distance relationship.how will we do wives to make our husband inspired in just love us that they will not be tempted with others?you know what man if they are in far place,that they are far from there wives.looking forward,tanx.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Gosh, that’s a tricky one. It certainly has to do with how strong the relationship is when he is home and the connection you maintain when he’s away. Do you get a chance to Skype alot with him while he’s working abroad?

  • aslflower

    I do sexy photo shoots for him every month. Then, when he’s working, or we’re apart, I send them to him sporadically. Sometimes, if we are going out to dinner with friends, I will excuse myself to the ladies room, take a sexy pic, and text it to him.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Nice! Sending sexy pics via text scare me though. These security breaches – wowzers! I’ll have to build up the courage for that one :) .