“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” -Dave Meurer
I love this quote. I read it for the first time last week on someone’s Facebook page and immediately thought about how perfectly it described my marriage. Keith and I are incredibly different. I am easily amused and if you’re around me for longer than 20 minutes, you’ll probably hear me laugh out loud at least 3 times. I’ve worked on adding a filter to my conversation over the years but I pretty much just shoot from the hip. I’m completely open about our marriage and my life overall.
What I’ve just described about myself is the polar opposite of Keith. Although he loves this Club and celebrates its purpose, he’s an incredibly private person. He’s probably one of the only people still not on Facebook or Twitter and he refuses to go anywhere near it. So many of the topics I discuss on this blog takes him pretty far out of his comfort zone.
He carefully crafts any statement that leaves his mouth and he does his best to take everyone’s feelings into account before speaking or making a decision. He’s completely open and honest with me but that’s only because he trusts me deeply. He is a guarded person in all other regards.
We are extremely different. But that’s what makes our relationship so wonderful. Just knowing him has made me a better person. He inspires me to be a kinder, gentler, more loving and humble person each day. And If you spoke with him, he’d say the same thing about me.
We are no different from every other couple who must learn to communicate in their spouse’s language. We challenge each other. We strengthen each other. We celebrate our differences because we know we are exactly as God created us, a million quirks and all. We respect each other immensely and it’s our differences, not our similarities, that cause us to rise a little more each day to be the person God has called us to be.
I am grateful for my husband. I am grateful for our differences. I am grateful for you, our readers, who continue to join us on this wonderful journey in life as we learn to speak, live and act in love first.
Question: Which of your husband’s differences do you respect most? What is something he does naturally – different from what you do – that has inspired you to grow and become a better person?
Until tomorrow…make it a great day!