Happy Wife = Happy Life {The 21-Day Challenge}

By Fawn Weaver on Monday, September 2, 2013

Happy Wife = Happy Life

I can’t tell you the number of times I have seen this quote: “Happy Wife = Happy Life.”  And my husband will be the first to testify to its truth. (Cue the amen choir!)  

If this statement is indeed true, what does that say about the flip side of that coin?

Does an unhappy wife equal unhappy lives all around her?  

An even better question may be this: If a previously unhappy wife becomes a happy wife, will her household change for the better?  

And if the answer to that question is yes, then we as women may not be giving ourselves enough credit. We’ve clearly got a whole lotta power! 

For many, they look to external circumstances for happiness.  That’s a part of the reason I love Shawn Achor’s book, The Happiness Advantage (and his accompanying TEDx talk) so much.

Achor uses science to show why its a person’s mindset -rather than what’s going on externally- that actually determines their happiness.

What many have long believed to be true about the origin of happiness, Achor and psychologists like Martin Seligman have now proven:  Happiness comes from the inside not from without.

It was with this thought that I began searching through HappyWivesClub.com for the 21-day challenge many of us participated in last year.

Several times over the past couple months, I’ve had women stumble across a few posts related to that challenge and ask if there’s an eBook where it’s all gathered.  They’ve written inquiring about getting the entire series in one place. Well, there’s no eBook and I don’t foresee one any time soon. But I was able to pull it all together.

So to those who wrote asking for this, I promised I’d do it. And although it took me a little while (sorry about that…sometimes life moves at a pace that outruns my lackluster attempts to keep up), it is all in one place (here and down below) and on one Pinterest Board (click here).

You can choose to read one per day or just skip to the areas most helpful in your current season. We all have differing seasons in life, and for this season, I’ve had way too many cookies and desserts so I’m going back to read Day 2 and Day 3 – right now.

On the final day of the original 21-day challenge, I wrote:

“Before this series, you may have seen happiness as something temporary; an emotion based upon external circumstances. At the very least, I hope you’’ve now been convinced otherwise. Life is about choices. And happiness is no exception. It is a choice. Your choice. So why not choose it today?”

So today, I pose the same question.  If there’s any area of your life that needs a little “happiness tweaking,” peruse the topics below and jump on in!

Intro: 21 Days to a Happier You!

Day 1: It’s Time to Get it Together

Day 2: 5 Easy Ways to Jumpstart Your Diet

Day 3: Exercise Your Way to a New You

Day 4: Celebrate Little Victories Every Day

Day 5: Road to Happiness

Day 6: Give Yourself a Break

Day 7: Pursue Your Passion

Day 8: Building Better Relationships (For Your Own Health)

Day 9: Igniting Happiness All Around You

Day 10: Top 5 Reasons to Love the Unlovable

Day 11: Gaining the Upper Hand in the In-Law Relationship

Day 12: Become the Happiest Family on the Block

Day 13: Release Your Expectation of Perfection

Day 14: Quickly Boost the Happiness in Your Marriage

Day 15: The Happiness Triangle

Day 16: Seeing the World Through a Prism of Faith

Day 17: Is Faith in God Important for Lasting Happiness?

Day 18: God + You + Your Spouse = Happy Marriage?

Day 19: It Takes More Than God to be Happy

Day 20: Receive Joy.  Choose Happiness.

Day 21: A Happier You. Today.

QUESTION: Have you ever taken on a 21, 28, 31-day challenge?  If so, which one and how did you enjoy it?

Until tomorrow…make it a great day!

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today® and New York Times® bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 900,000 women in over 110 countries around the world. When she’s not blogging or working on her next project, she's happily doting over her husband of nearly eleven years, Keith.


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  • Sarah Dean

    Your Pinterest thumbnail is too small to allow me to pin. Thanks.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Thanks, Sarah! Not sure why it’s not appearing so small but will look into it right now.

  • http://www.encourageyourspouse.com/ Lori Ferguson

    Great stuff, Fawn. (my husband is a subscriber to that “happy wife – happy life” saying!)

    To your question about embracing a dare… Well, yes! We are!

    In fact, we’re currently in the process of the 12 dates in 12 days “fun” dare from you! LOL http://www.happywivesclub.com/the-fun-dare-12-dates-in-12-days/

    It’s definitely keeping us on the go… tonight we’re having a campfire.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      I am SO excited for you it’s not even funny! Rob rocks!! Can’t wait to hear how your campfire turns out and what soups you fell in love with. And I’m hopeful we’ll read all about your fabulous 12-day dating spree on encourageyourspouse.com – woot woot!

  • Cassie

    Just started day one! Thank you for sharing this! I am in need of getting back on track a bit. This is just the thing to help!

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Yeah!! Woohoo!! <3

  • Rhiannon

    I am most DEFINITELY going to take this challenge! You always have the greatest content. Thank you

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Woohoo! Keep my posted, Rhiannon! <3