My Comment Policy

As you know, engagement on the web is all about the conversation. But without a few simple ground rules, that conversation can turn into a shouting match that discourages others from entering into the fray.

One of the main purposes of the Happy Wives Club is to provide an environment where people free to share what is awesome in their life; how they are creating their happily ever after. HWC gives everyone permission to be happy and not feel as though they are bragging, boasting or need to apologize for their awesome life.

So here is our comments policy. By posting on our site, you agree to the following:

1. You may comment without registering. You can log-in via IntenseDebate, OpenID, Twitter, Facebook—or not at all. It’s up to you.

2. You may post anonymously. I don’t recommend this, but you may do so if you wish. I may change this rule if it is abused.

3. You may post follow-up questions. If you have a question, chances are you are not alone. Others are likely thinking similarly. Therefore, I would rather receive your comments on my blog than via email. It is a better use of my time to address everyone at once rather than answer several similar emails.

4. You may disagree with me. I welcome debate. However, I ask that if you disagree with me—or anyone else, for that matter—do so in a way that is respectful. In my opinion, there is way too much shouting in the public square to tolerate it here.

5. I reserve the right to delete your comments. This is my blog. I don’t have an obligation to publish your comments. The First Amendment gives you the right to express your opinions on your blog not mine.

Specifically, I will delete your comments if you post something that is, in my sole opinion, (a) snarky; (b) off-topic; (c) libelous, defamatory, abusive, harassing, threatening, profane, pornographic, offensive, false, misleading, or which otherwise violates or encourages others to violate my sense of decorum and civility or any law, including intellectual property laws; or (d) “spam,” i.e., an attempt to advertise, solicit, or otherwise promote goods and services. You may, however, post a link to your site or your most recent blog post.

6. You retain ownership of your comments. I do not own them and I expressly disclaim any and all liability that may result from them. By commenting on my site, you agree that you retain all ownership rights in what you post here and that you will relieve me from any and all liability that may result from those postings.

7. You grant me a license to post your comments. This license is worldwide, irrevocable, non-exclusive, and royalty-free. You grant me the right to store, use, transmit, display, publish, reproduce, and distribute your comments in any format, including but not limited to a blog, in a book, a video, or presentation.

In short, my goal is to host interesting conversations with loving, honest, and respectful people. I believe this simple comments policy will facilitate this.

  • Thomas Bittner

    Congratulations on your about.com award! Even though I’m a husband and NOT a wife, I feel that you offer an important perspective that everyone can learn from. Thank you for all you do!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you so much, Thomas!! It’s amazing to hear from the husbands out there (and you’d be surprised that more are reading it then you might think :) ).

  • Esther Irish

    We probably don’t spend the conscious time of renewal often enough. But we do consciously let go of irritations and forgive thinking of the things we love about each other!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      That’s a great habit to have for sure! How are you, Esther?

  • Lauren Lawson

    I love that! I never thought about having a cue for each other. I usually can tell J’s reaction naturally and he mine. But I think having a definite cue would work great for us!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Ditto! I also loved the suggestion Maggie made in the comments on the other page. She and her husband have a private cue for when they’re out with others and are ready to go. Keith and I began using that and we LOVE it!

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    My husband and I still are working on this even after 25 years of marriage! We have both positive cues and cues to highlight a concern that we want the other to notice when we’re in a social situation. We’re still working on more that can help us better navigate a sticky situations. But I really like the question you ask yourself, “Could this change in their attitude or mood be something caused by me?” That brings it back to taking personal responsibility–something so necessary in the heat of the moment. Thanks for this great post and link up, Fawn! It’s my first time and I’m enjoying the company!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yeah! Welcome, Beth!! So happy you could join the link up and I will be hopping over to your blog to check out your post. <3

  • http://twitter.com/Datelivery Datelivery

    When this popped up in my email on Sunday, I read it and thought to myself “Was this person just listening to my entire conversation with my husband” . My husband and I went out on Saturday with friends, and I said something that made him upset and not only did his mood change but he voiced it out loud *awkward*. The next morning after a long conversation we came to the agreement that we must NEVER confront each other in public, instead if one of us unknowingly did something to upset the other we should try to let them know in a discreet manner (didn’t think of the cue idea so that is brilliant). We also agreed that we are responsible for acknowledging a mood change in the other person. Instead of overlooking an obvious mood change, we take personal responsibility for finding out if we were the cause of it. This is new for both of us, so we’ll see how it goes! Thanks for the post.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      I’m so happy we were in your head!! :) Having cues has proven to be SO SO helpful for us. I hope they prove to be just as helpful for you.

  • http://twitter.com/Tidbitsofexperi TidBitsOfExperience

    I’ve been given a lot of wonderful advise through the years, but the most important has been to “never go to bed mad at each other” has made all the difference in the world.

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Yes, great piece of advice for sure!

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    What a beautiful dress, day and idea, Fawn! I’m so glad you shared this peek into your special 10 year celebration with all of us. Congrats!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thanks, Beth!!

  • Kelly

    Fawn, I love this! How romantic and you both look simply gorgeous…stunning. Thank you for sharing this with us. My husband and I celebrate our first anniversary this coming Sunday. Just tonight we were chatting about “the year in review”. We’re still living in magic. I hope it continues forever. Many continued blessings to you both and thank you for continuing to inspire so many. <3

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Keep on living in the magic, Kelly, and don’t let anyone take that away from you. Marriage can be magical from start to finish so make it happen and it will :) .

  • http://www.messymarriage.com/ Beth Steffaniak

    I’m with you, Fawn, I’d rather learn from the lessons someone else has learned and written about in a book, than doing those same foolish things in order to learn from the “school of hard knocks.” I love the ideas you give us for keeping our hearts happy and pursuing a grateful perspective. It really does make a difference! Thanks also for providing this great linkup!

    • http://twitter.com/happywivesclub Happy Wives Club™

      Thank you so much, Beth, for linking up! Quick question for you. I noticed you post your comments on the My Comments Policy page. Is this the only thing that shows us for you? If so, what browser do you use? I’ve seen a few people post here so I’m wondering if one of the browsers aren’t picking up the Disqus comments as they’re supposed to. Thanks! <3

  • chuchay david

    thank you for always inspiring us to have a good relationship with my husband ang kids…more inspirational knowledge and guidance in our club….godbless

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      God bless you, as well! And thank you.

  • Pete

    Hello Fawn, I came across your blog and found it extremely interesting. You see I’m a husband who has been with his wife 20 years. Sixteen years married today. We are currently going through a very hard time. She has “Checked Out” is “Done” but Im not I cant give up without a fight. Marriage Counseling and self help books have helped but this site is very uplifting and inspirational. I love all the positive vibes and the positive input. Thank You.

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Hi Pete! My apologies for not responding sooner. For some reason, this comment was posted on my Comment Policy page so I missed it. I hope you and your wife are doing much better now. I’m rooting for you!

  • http://realitywanted.com/suzyscorp Suzy

    Hi everyone, I just joined today, so I guess that makes me a newbie. I’ve been married for 7 years, and we just celebrated it on 3/17 (we’re both a little Irish, but really it was the only Saturday in March that worked for both of us! lol), and this is also a 2nd marriage for both of us. I first met my future second husband (Steve) in 1997, when he was married to someone else, and I was in a relationship with someone else. His son (Christopher) played with my son (Danny), so we tried to get them together whenever we could. Then Steve’s marriage broke up in 1998 and he moved out with custody of both of his children (I’ll explain that later). My rocky relationship ended in the summer of 2000, so my son and I moved to a new apartment. I lost contact with Steve and Chris.

    Three years later, my son signed up for summer camp and my Christopher was there too. I asked about his father but he couldn’t quite remember his phone number. lol. Danny’s 11th birthday was coming up and of course he wanted Christopher to attend. I found Steve’s mother’s name in the phone book and took it from there. I thought Steve would just drop Chris off, but he stayed as long as he could. I looked at him differently, as he did with me, and from that day on, we have been together ever since. We lived together for 6 years before getting married, so we’ve been together a total of almost 13 years.

    Sorry so long.. Thanks,
    Suzy

    • http://www.happywivesclub.com/ Fawn @ Happy Wives Club

      Congratulations on 7 years, Suzy! So happy you have found the marriage of your dreams.

  • casandra

    I was married for 32 years to a wonderful guy. He was romantic, loving, and we LAUGHED a lot together. We talked about every thing , where the best of friends and our marriage was perfect except for our in-existent sex life.I consider sex a natural need like sleeping or eating and according to the advise i often read it does not make sense to me. If i am hungry please do not tell me to go to gym, or read a book…it might work for a while but after some time it is not going to be a solution !!!.
    I felt i was married to my brother sort of thing and no to a husband. I was for ever resentful as i feel i spend the best time of my life in a celibate relationship ! NOT FAIR TO ME…
    If i was going to start again i would have a lover and enjoy my youth, to feel a woman feel loved and sexually wanted.