What I love about writer, Kim Hall, is her ability to uncover marriage lessons in the unlikeliest of places.
One of the greatest truths I’ve learned over my 38-year life is there is a lesson in everything. And I mean everything.
I intentionally seek out the lesson in all things -good or challenging. And based on the unlikely place where Kim found these, she clearly does the same.
I’d love to know in what unlikely place (or person) you’ve discovered a life changing marriage lesson of your own.
Until tomorrow…make it a great day!
When you look for lessons in both good and challenging times, what you’ll discover will blow your mind.
Have you noticed happily married couples have a certain look about them?
Their quiet strength and unique beauty remind me of the majestic and long-lived redwood trees.
The two actually have more in common than you may know.
1. Bark for protection. Redwoods don’t do anything small, and their bark is no exception. It grows up to twelve inches thick and is naturally fire-retardant.
Marriage Lesson: Individuals in happy marriages cultivate qualities such as commitment, hope, and empathy, that form a similarly big and strong firewall of protection around the relationship.
2. Roots that spread out as well as down. While conventional wisdom states that roots of any sort should go deep to provide the most stability, these giants actually rely on the additional strength of many to stay upright by weaving their roots into those of their neighbors.
Marriage Lesson: Finding mentors, befriending other couples, and joining like-minded groups such as Happy Wives Club lends support to help your marriage withstand life’s storms.
3. Canopy that supports a wider community. The large branches offer hospitality, safety, and room to thrive.
Marriage Lesson: A sound marriage provides similar benefits. In addition to sharing the joyful possibilities that begin with I do, your family is apt to be healthier, happier, take better care of themselves, and do better academically and economically. From that foundation, you can be a powerful force for good and giving.
4. Plan for the future. The redwood protects itself from drought by collecting literally tons of water from the fog that washes over the forest and then holds it in reserve.
Marriage Lesson: A carefully tended marriage, like a well-watered tree, is less apt to develop weakness and illness. Building up a reservoir of regular and satisfying communication, creating an atmosphere conducive to apology and forgiveness, and practicing gratitude can sustain relationships through difficult times.
5. Capacity to inspire others. Robert Louis Stevenson wrote, “It is not so much for its beauty that the forest makes a claim upon men’s hearts, as for that subtle something, that quality of air, that emanation from old trees, that so wonderfully changes and renews a weary spirit.”
Marriage Lesson: As Fawn shares often, media and culture paint an unflattering picture of marriage full of unhappy and desperate wives. Healthy marriages are beautiful and inspiring, even with their blemishes and scars. They have the power to encourage and renew the spirits of those who hoped happily ever after might really be possible.
YOUR TURN: What marriage lesson have you learned in the least likely of places?
May you find happiness wherever you are! Kim, your personal Sherpa of Joy at Too Darn Happy
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