Years ago, a movie came out called Why Did I Get Married? The ads indicated there would be plenty of drama but also a redemptive quality to the movie; reminding us all why we got married.
Sitting in the theater, as the movie came an end, the first thing I thought was, “Man, if my marriage were like that, I’d have no idea why I’d gotten married?”
Thank goodness for us, marriage doesn’t have to be filled to the brim with stress, strife, drama, fussing and fighting.
It can be wonderful, beautiful, transformative, and the greatest partnership in life.
I was reminded of that this weekend as Keith was talking me down off a ledge. Not literally, of course, but figuratively.
Last week was tough. My to-do list seemed never-ending. Most days began at 4am and went well into the night. I was exhausted. I felt defeated.
A lot of amazing and wonderful things also happened throughout the week, but as is often the case for most of us, I was fixated on the one thing that I wanted to see happen that hadn’t yet materialized.
Isn’t it funny how we can oftentimes miss 20 blessings in search of the one that seems to elude us?
Maybe it’s just me.
Keith challenged my thoughts. He questioned my wavering faith. And then he helped me to right my wrong thinking. I’d lost my focus and it had taken me on a stress-induced roller coaster of emotions.
That wasn’t pretty, I assure you.
But there he was, as he always has been. Ready to lift me up, wipe my tears, hold me tight, there to encourage me, and to hold a mirror to my face. You are destined for greatness. You are already great. A singular setback doesn’t negate all of your success. Get it together, my love.
He sat me on his lap, rested my head on his shoulder and prayed. He prayed that I’d remember we’re not in this alone and it’s okay for me to get some rest. I’m not a super hero. He prayed that my faith would be strengthened and that this time would not be remembered by the stress that was felt but by the foundation of greatness that was laid.
Entering one of my favorite times of the year, Thanksgiving week, I thought about his words, his encouragement and our partnership. My gratitude for not only what he says and what he does, but simply for who he is. I have no idea where I would be if I didn’t say, I do, ten marvelous years ago.
So if you ask me why I got married, it’s a very simple question for me to answer. Because I would have been crazy not to. My life was made a thousand times greater the moment he uttered, “You are my life. Would you do me the honor of being my wife.” It was changed instantly and it’ll never be the same.
Marriage is an incalculable gift. One not to be taken for granted. Something to give thanks for every day. Not just on Thanksgiving but every day.
So to my husband, Keith Edward Weaver, you are my life. Thank you for the honor of being your wife.
And to you, I pose the same question I just answered above. Why did you get married?
Until tomorrow…make it a great day!
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