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6 Ways to Love Your Husband...Even Better

6 Ways to Love Your Husband…Even Better

6 Ways to Love Your Husband Even Better

In college I had a roommate who always had a boyfriend—always.  Boys just liked her, lots of them. 

She was cute, smart, and fun but there was more to it and it didn’t take me long to figure out why so many boys liked her.  She simply, openly, adored them. 

My roommate genuinely saw the best in everyone and she told them.  If a guy was strong, she told him.  If he was smart, she told him.  If he was sweet, she told him. 

It wasn’t manipulative on her part.  She was just as complimentary and encouraging to girlfriends, teachers and everyone else.   

Adore by definition means to regard with the utmost esteem, love, and respect.  Men, especially, crave that intoxicating combination of respect and admiration; it’s just the way they’re wired. 

In the same way, much has been written about how women are wired to crave love. So, my thought is this… if you give your honey some sweet adoration, you might really enjoy what comes back—a little more lovin’!

Even if you don’t feel like adoring your husband, try!  I confess it is not easy for me; I am not the adoring type.  But he needs it and it will make him a better, more confident man. Here are my ideas on 6 ways to love your husband with adoration.

1. Adore Him Unconditionally. Don’t wait to adore him until he’s nicer, makes more money or is more affectionate with you.  The key is to love him as he–even if he’s not 100 percent adorable.

2. Adore Him For What He Does.  Take notice of what he does and make it a big deal. Tell him and be specific:  “You are such a great dad; our kids just love you.”  “You did an awesome job fixing the garage door. “

3. Adore Him Physically. If you don’t adore him in this area, who will?  This is something only the two of you share. You don’t have to wait until you’re in bed together; whisper a compliment at breakfast: “I was thinking about last night and how great…”   You get the idea.

4. Adore Him By Listening.  Men like and need their wife’s attention. When you listen well you will become his confidant and gain greater access to what he struggles with and needs encouragement about.

5. Adore Him By Putting Him First.  You can’t tell your 3 year old to wait while you give your husband a back massage.  But, you can find creative ways to carve out time for him. 

6. Adore Him So Others Can See It and Hear It. A compliment given at home is one thing; a compliment given in front of others is magnified big time.  So the next time you’re out with your husband with friends or family, build him up in front of everyone.

QUESTION: I am going to challenge myself to adore my husband in a different way every day for a week.  I’m one idea short, so how do you adore your husband?

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6 Tips for Reigniting Passion in Your Marriage (And giveaway!)

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On more occasions than I can recall, I’ve received emails from wives who have stumbled across this site and asked:

What about me?  What about the wife who isn’t happy and needs help falling in love again?

And honestly, because of the original mission of this club, there aren’t a lot of posts on this site that address “rekindling” or “reigniting” passion in marriage.

So for those who have written me asking those questions, and for others who are yet to ask, this post by journalist and author Emily Wierenga is for you.

Until tomorrow…make it a great day! 

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I was sitting in a hotel room on a king-sized bed at a conference.

I was sitting there alone, not minding being alone, wishing that I missed him.

Wishing I missed the man I’d been married to for eleven years and I was forgetting what the touch of his hand felt like.

His calloused, farm-boy hand, the one that found me across the duvet those three years I relapsed into anorexia and sleeping pills.

The one which fed me ice chips as I birthed two miracle boys, the one which always gave me the first strawberry of the season from our garden.

I crawled onto the king-sized mattress then, stretched out across the miles of bed and cried.

I was scared.

I was scared of forgetting how to be in love with my husband.

Many marriages—no matter how strong—finds itself here, at some point: at a crossroads. And it’s there, at the crossroads, that we have a choice.

If we stay on the same path, we’ll end up not recognizing one another in 10 years and arguing over who gets custody. It’s a pivotal moment, this crossroads: of deciding—do I still believe in love, and if so, am I willing to allow it to transform this relationship into something they make movies about?

In other words, do I believe love is the most powerful force in the world? And if so, can it overcome any obstacle—including indifference?

I believe it can. In fact, I know it can.

It means reaching the crossroads and choosing the narrow path, the one leading to a marriage so real and intimate it will make our kids want to get married. The choice is to keep falling in love with your husband.

So here are six things that helped me reignite the passion in my marriage:

1. Don’t be afraid to apologize. Grab your husband’s hand and feel the roughness of his palm and say, “I’m sorry for not letting you in.” Be vulnerable, and in turn, he too will become vulnerable, and your feet will turn towards the road less marked.

2. Choose your husband over work. Set aside evenings to spend with him. Put technology away, and play ping-pong in the garage. Let him make you belly-laugh again.

3. Don’t compare your husband to other men. Comparison will eat up contentment. It will rob you of joy. Our disappointments are only as great as our expectations. As bad as it sounds, lower your expectations of your husband and accept him as HIM.

4. Believe that your husband loves you. He tells you all the time, but sometimes, you may stop hearing him. He loves you. For better or worse, till death do you part. He loves you. Never forget that.

5. Be bold in the bedroom. Our hubbies desire to be desired. Light a candle, slip into something sexy, and show your man how much he means to you.

6. Prioritize your husband over the kids. We live in a culture that says kids are more important than marriage. But it’s our marriage that’s going to be there long after the kids go. Focus on loving your husband first and your kids second, because in the long run that will bless your children the most.

Marriage is the fire that family gathers around, friends.

The key is to never let it go out.

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