Light The Fire In Your Marriage...This Weekend

Light The Fire In Your Marriage…This Weekend

Last night, I watched the lit candle on the edge of our kitchen counter. Tropical Medley is the scent and I love lighting it as the work day comes to a close to fill our home with it’s mild fruity fragrance. When I want a spicier scent, I light the deep red candle on the coffee table in our living room that warms our home with the smell of cinnamon.

As I looked at the flicker of the lit candle, dancing around the jar while remaining contained in the glass that surrounds it and watched it gently melt the wax that keeps it burning so bright, I thought about marriage. I’m not quite sure why exactly this made me think about marriage, it just did.

I thought about my own marriage and how Keith and I work daily to keep the fire lit in our marriage. Oftentimes when people talk about lighting or striking a fire, they’re referring to sex. And although I love to make love to my husband (and he most assuredly is generous in his reciprocity), that’s not what he wants from me most.

I’ve watched him over the years and discovered what he craves most is oneness with me. Knowing that he is pleasing me in every way possible and hearing me exclaim it and proclaim it out loud (that’s in sex too – sorry neighbors ). It’s important to him to know his love for me, all he does for our family and the sacrifices he makes to ensure I’m the happiest woman he knows, never goes unnoticed.

I’ve often found myself saying this lately, but I keep sharing it because I find it to be so true: Gratitude begets happiness. When I wake up in the morning and am grateful to God, to life, to my family, to my husband for all that happened the day before and am grateful in advance for what will happen in that day, I just feel better; happier.

And so it is with my husband, I’ve discovered. My gratitude not only makes me happy, it makes him happy. It not only ensures a wonderful day for myself, it ensures an equally beautiful day for him. So when I think about keeping the fire lit in my marriage, I think most about living a grateful life. For him, for me, for our family, for our marriage.

Question: Does your happiness positively impact your husband’s day and your marriage? When you’re happy, does that make him smile all the more?

Until Monday…make it a great weekend! You deserve it.

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Fawn Weaver

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Fawn Weaver is the USA Today and New York Times bestselling author of Happy Wives Club: One Woman's Worldwide Search for the Secrets of a Great Marriage, adopting the same name as the Club she founded in 2010. The Happy Wives Club community has grown to include more than 1 million women in over 110 countries around the world. She’s an investor in real estate, tech sector and lifestyle brands. When she’s not writing or working, she's happily doting over her husband of twelve years, Keith (and sometimes manages to do all three simultaneously).