Question Everything You Know…Especially, About Marriage Communication
I grew up a rebel. Questioning everything. I was raised in a religious household but regularly questioned my parent’s faith. I was most fascinated by history in school because it was, for the most part, based on facts. And even then, I questioned all the facts.
When I met my husband, a part of what was so fascinating to him about me is I marched to the beat of my own drum. I would not accept something as true just because it was positioned as truth.
I am still that way today.
Maybe that’s why I’m so excited about my new book, The Argument-Free Marriage, that arrives in stores today (Barnes & Noble, Books-A-Million and bookstores across the North America). It is seven years in the making and challenges a pretty basic premise in our society. It asks couples to question something most have been taught to believe: that arguments in marriage are necessary…and they are healthy.
In what other relationship in life would we ever make this claim?
No, really. Consider that for a moment.
Is there any other relationship in life that you would say in order for it to be healthy there must be arguments?
When I began writing this book, it was not for the public. I wanted to give my baby sister a very special wedding present. So I asked Keith to help me create a list of our Top 10 things we consistently did to keep our marriage loving and full of peace.
As we began to write the list, our top 10 ballooned to 25 or so. It wasn’t until then that we realized the amazing marriage we’d created over the years had not been through happenstance but rather through principles we’d developed and boundaries we’d put in place early on in our marriage.
Boundaries like not staying in touch with exes (including respectfully declining their “friend requests” on Facebook) and putting each other over in-laws.
Principles like never sweeping things under the rug, being honest and transparent with each other, even when doing so feels uncomfortably vulnerable.
During challenges -like years of infertility treatments or risky investment choices that caused financial strains- we realized that our principle of always sticking together allowed us to team up to find solutions rather than turn against one another when times got tough.
These principles, and many others, are contained in this marriage communication book that is truly different. (I can say this with confidence because no other marriage book like it exists.)
As a member of this community, I’d like to ask you to consider doing something today. Of course, I’d be honored if you would order the book online or head to your nearest bookstore and pick up a copy. But I don’t want you to just order one for yourself.
Try to think of at least one couple (engaged or within their first 7 years of marriage) that could use this book and then purchase two copies for them to join the 28-day challenge contained together.
If you purchase the book online (Amazon has it today for 52% off), send it as a gift with a note. And in that note, encourage them to begin (or continue) creating the marriage they’ve always wanted with the spouse they already have (that’s the subtitle of the book, by the way).
Marriages are failing all around us each and every day. I believe The Argument-Free Marriage has the power to help change that (at least, that is my sincere hope).
Now…has a couple come to mind that you want to gift with this book? If so, when you send it to them, along with your note of encouragement, please consider also sending these words from me: Marriage is a priceless gift. Open it daily and treasure it greatly.
Until tomorrow…make it a great day!
THE BOOK: Read the book that inspired the powerful TED talk and prompted author of The 5 Love Languages, Gary Chapman, PhD., to write the book’s foreword. Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott, bestselling authors of Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts said, “We’ve been counseling couples and writing marriage books for a long time, and we can say with absolute certainty, there has never been a book quite like The Argument-Free Marriage. If you think no such union exists, or if you’ve come to the conclusion that arguments are necessary in marriage, allow Fawn to challenge that notion and set you on a path to creating the greatest partnership in life: your marriage.”
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